Two Weddings and A Funeral

Ok… not quite… but pretty darn close. This weekend/coming week has been “hectic” to say the least.

First, our second wedding anniversary was Sunday. Two years has totally flown by. I always said I wanted to have children once we’d been married for two years, and that has now come and gone with no children. To be honest, it kind of snuck up on us. It’s so hard to believe that I have been married to my best friend for two years, most of the time it feels like we’ve just been married forever. Our family forgets that it’s only been two years because we have been together for over seven. That’s a LONG time!

I had planned to write a nice long blog about how great our two years has been… and then… everything else happened. Check out my first year anniversary blog here to refresh your memory!

Second, Sunday was Father’s Day so we spent our actually anniversary with friends and family celebrating a totally different thing… our dads. What great men they are, and how great they have been to both our families. We are both so fortunate to have been blessed with these wonderful men in our lives. They have set great examples for my husband when we decide the time is right to have children.

Third, my mom’s best friend passed away on Friday. It was detrimental to our family. She was one of those women who touches literally everyone’s life she walks into. She taught second grade with my mom for years and she adopted my brother, sister, and I as her nieces and nephews. She carried pictures of us in her wallet, she sent us birthday cards (always with confetti in them), and she passed along her high heeled shoes for my sister and I to play dress up in. Every time we visited her house, we came home with makeup on, red fingernails, and bags of shoes to dress up in! She was truly a great woman. It was hard losing her, but it was really hard knowing that she was only a few years older than my mom. She died of breast cancer; it’s such a terrible disease. I took a few days off work to be with my mom and family. They had a wonderful service for her yesterday and they packed the church. Her procession was over 2 miles long. What a tribute!

Lastly, we have another wedding to go to this weekend. It should be fun. It was my neighbor growing up. We stopped by her mom’s house yesterday to drop off her gifts early and sat and chatted for a little while. I got time to think about the day that I married my best friend. It was truly the best of my life, thus far.

So that, my friends, is my two weddings and a funeral post. Now, do you see why my title was kinda-sorta fitting?

Thank you for stopping by!

EXCITEMENT

So, if you read any of my previous posts, you know that Joe and I bought a house a while ago (it actually seems like an eternity ago!). Well, this week it becomes REAL! This week, we sign our lives away and actually become homeowners. I feel like this is just the next step in our lives together. Our lives are beginning to feel real. Don't get me wrong, I totally have felt married, and happy for the past year of my life, but we lived together before we were married (I know, I know, don't judge me!) and so when we got back from our honeymoon and back to reality, things didn't necessarily change. That was a good thing! Now, we are having serious conversations such as... children, where we want our kids to go to school, etc.

I recently got together with a friend from high school and we were talking. I told her that Joe brought up the "having children" conversation (it wasn't a total surprise, we have talked about it before) and I freaked out. Like I said before, it's becoming real. Within the next year we are thinking about trying to start a family. This means... no more sleeping in (or sleeping at all for that matter), no more running errands together just to spend time together, no more having extra money to spend on US, etc. Those of you who have your own children know the drill... LOL.

Anyway, I could use some help talking me down off the ledge right now because I am totally nervous and scared. We aren't even trying to have a child yet, but it is truly all I think about lately. I NEED SOME HELPFUL WORDS HERE! LOL

There are Babies EVERYWHERE

So we finally got to throw a baby shower for the guy that works with us. His baby isn't even supposed to be here yet (due 5/31) but she came a little early. So we had to put our baby shower on hold. It worked out fine though. It was fun, and he was so surprised.

But, the real reason I'm writing this is because I feel like everywhere I look, everyone I talk to, everywhere I go... there are babies, or pregnant women, or women trying to get pregnant. There are probably 25 women that I work with that are pregnant. No, I am not exagerating, I work in a huge company. Anyway, I have a few friends who are trying to get pregnant, and a few who just found out they're pregnant. They are really EVERYWHERE!

I don't know whether it is because it is the next step in my life and that's why I am so observant. I mean, when I was engaged I felt like everyone around me was getting married. Who knows, but I just can't believe the amount of pregnancy going around! I hope there isn't something in the water (for my sake) HAHA!

Exhaustion has Officially Set In...

This week has been so incredibly exhausting, and I am only at Wednesday... Are you kidding me?

I am an accountant... not a very fun job, I have to admit. But this week has just about put me over the edge. The other staff accountant's wife went into early labor last weekend and gave birth to their first child on Friday. Well... this week is close week. And for us here in accounting world, that means deadlines, and tons of work, and working late. Well without my partner in crime, guess who get's to do ALL the work. None other than me! I already have approximately 40 hours in this week and it's only Wednesday. Good thing I'm on salary... NOT!

Of course, on the day when I have most of my deadlines, the system crashes and so I have spent more time at work in the past 3 days than at home, with my husband, and my puppies. SERIOUSLY?

Ok, enough of the work rant.

On another note, I have been intensely reading and commenting on several blogs lately, and I really like it. But I am getting the feeling that my life just isn't as important as others. I don't have children, I don't stay at home and have cute stories for everyone's enjoyment. Don't get me wrong, I love reading about everyone's life. BUT... I have reasons for not having children yet. Like the fact that I kept my promise to my parents, and finished college before marrying my HIGH SCHOOL sweetheart. Go ahead, do the math, that is nearly 6 years people. My parent's really wanted me to finish college, or else they wouldn't pay for our wedding. Fair enough! Then theres the whole idea of being married for a little while. If you read some earlier posts, you would see what exactly I am talking about in the way of "reasons why Joe and I are not having children yet."

I know this is probably just the exhaustion talking, but I felt as though I needed to get that out.

I am seriously getting ready to go to bed. With new puppies, lots of work, and knee surgery on Friday, I have a lot on my plate.

Until next time,

Tricia

Answers to An Inappropriate Question...

So, I was asked today by a friend of my moms if I was feeling "baby fever." I immediately thought of what an innapropriate question for someone to ask me. My husband and I haven't even been married a year yet. We have made it fairly clear that children are NOT in our near future, yet this person continues to ask the question. Except this time, I gave it a bit of thought, instead of just answering my normal, well rehearsed response. My new answer... (and by new answer I mean, my answer to justify to myself that we are definitely making the right choice, if you ask me, you are still going to get the rehearsed answer!)

Here goes... First, I have always wanted to be a stay at home mom. My hubby and I live very well right now. We are both using our degrees and working 40 hours a week. While I constantly see people sacrificing a salary for time with their child(ren), we are most definately not wanting to do that quite yet. I was spoiled as a child, having a mother who was a teacher, and a father who was home at the same time EVERY single night. Since I didn't choose the field of teaching like my mom, I would love to take a hiatus from work to raise my children. So that is reason one.

Reason 2... I am not ready to give up things such as going out with friends, and alone time with my husband. We got a dog last year for Valentine's day, and that was a change for us! We now had to come home at night, and had to think of how long she had been at home in her cage. I can't even begin to fathom the things that we would have to give up if we chose to have a child right now. And frankly, I am not ready.

My final reason is we want to be in a house. My husband and I never had to move around when we were children. We both lived somewhere, and moved once. That is a huge thing for me. Moving is terrible, and hard on anyone. I can't imagine having to do it with a child. Plus, we live in a little apartment right now. There wouldn't be any room for toys and cribs and everything baby related.

I know I have opinions and people don't agree with them. I am fine with that. I also wish everyone having a child, the very best of luck, just at this point in MY life, I am not ready for a child, and I get really sick of this question and the thoughts that go with it, so I am voicing my opinion here... because I know that when someone asks me face-to-face, my answer is still going to be the nice and polite version. I needed to get it off my chest!

And for now... that puppy above is my "child"