Thursday, January 27, 2011

Now vs. Then

I've been thinking a lot about things I know now vs. things I knew when I literally thought I knew it all! It's so funny how things, times, people, etc, change!

Then - I thought pregnancy was all glitz and glamour, and while I wasn't so sure I'd love EVERY second of being pregnant, I was sure I wasn't going to complain. After all, there are tons of people who don't get to experience this miracle.

Now - Now, I know that, although I still try really hard not to complain for said reasons listed above, it's hard. And sometimes, whether I like it or not, I cannot do it, or do not want to do it for the simple reason that "I'm pregnant!".

Then - When I was in high school I thought I, like many of us, was invincible. I'm a little embarrassed (and proud too!)to admit that I didn't have sex in high school. For numerous reasons, but my life was drama enough (or so I thought!) that worrying about being late, or getting pregnant, or losing it to the wrong guy would have been way too much on my plate.

Now - Now I know it's a damn good thing I didn't have sex in high school. While I didn't get pregnant while on the pill, the minute, yes almost literally, that I went off the pill I was pregnant. While I have much respect for many people who have children in their teens, it wasn't for me and I wouldn't be where I am today if that would have happened.

Then - I thought my best friend would be my best friend FOREVER!

Now - Now I know that friends come and go, and while I have a few friends that I call my best, I would rather have one good friend, then all my "best friends" from high school combined.

Then - I used to tell myself I'd never do a job that I didn't ABSOLUTELY love.

Now - Life happens. You have bills, and things you want to do, and more bills. And with the economy in shambles like it is, you take what you can get. I'm fortunate... I use my degree and make good money. But, I defintely don't ABSOLUTELY love my job!

These are just a few silly things I've been thinking about lately. I can't believe everything that changes, whether or not we want it too! What about you... what did you think, then vs. now?


Mama Reg said...

such a good blog :) :) oh the things we learn in life! im glad you are lovin life now! the funny things we thought in highschool... but im with you on NOT having sex in highschool!! :)

renee said...

yep, you think you know it all and then BAM you realize in a second that you REALLY don't! lol. Josh and I always laugh about one time we were in a restaraunt and this family had two kids and they were being...well...KIDS. And we were like "omg our kids will NEVER get away with that stuff. HA! NEVER say never! lol ;-)

Anonymous said...

It's funny. I think about this stuff all the time. Mine are more like the "what-ifs" of high school and now. Unfortunately I was one of those girls that gave into the stupidity of sex in high school and look where it got me? Pregnant at 17 and a baby a day and a half after walking across that stage. But I have to remind myself, I did it. I graduated, I went straight to college, I managed 2 jobs and got a place for myself and my kid and I moved on with my life. Granted, it may not have been what I thought my life would've been like... but what if I didn't have Kaylee then? Would I have met the most amazing man ever? Would I be living in a nice house, in a nice neighborhood, with two (almost) 3 beautiful kids?? Sometimes the what-ifs will eat you alive, that's why I try not to beat myself up about it. I'm proud of where I am from being a teen mom and I feel horribly for those girls out there that cannot seem to find that same motivation and just give up. That's why my line of work (degree in social work) is to help others figure out how to get themselves out of a difficult situation and help children succeed in life. I think it motivated me more. God knows I wasn't at all ready to be a mother, but that's what happened and I made the best of it. My advice to teens now is to NOT have sex in high school or while you're a teen. Because the consequences could scare you.
Thanks for posting this. I couldn't agree more with you. Teens today are living in a time where sex is all "glam" but its not. And I wish that they could see that...